1. Excerpt from Silo’s words during Three Days of Spiritual Inspiration, Punta de Vacas, May 3, 4, and 5, 2007
We have made the pilgrimage to this desolate outpost, searching for the Force that nourishes our lives, seeking Joy in our actions and the mental Peace we need if we are to move forward in this altered and violent world. During these Days we are reviewing our lives, our hopes, and also our failures, with the aim of cleansing our minds of all falsification and contradiction. Taking the opportunity to review our aspirations and frustrations is a practice that everyone who seeks to move forward in their personal development and in their actions in the world should carry out, even if only once in a lifetime.
These are days of inspiration and reflection. These are days of Reconciliation, sincere reconciliation with ourselves and with those who have harmed us. Regarding those painful relationships we have endured, we are not trying to forgive or be forgiven. To forgive implies that one of the parties is placed in a superior moral position, while the other humbles him or herself before the forgiving one. And while it is clear that forgiveness is more advanced than vengeance, it is not as advanced as reconciliation.
Nor are we trying to forget the wrongs that have occurred. This is not about trying to falsify our memory. It’s about trying to comprehend what happened, in order to begin the superior step of reconciliation. Nothing good is achieved, either personally or socially, by forgetting or forgiving. Don´t forget and don’t forgive! The mind should remain fresh and attentive, without hiding or lying about anything.
We are now considering the key aspect of Reconciliation, something that does not admit adulteration. If we are searching for sincere reconciliation with ourselves and with those who have hurt us deeply, it is because we desire a profound transformation of our lives. A transformation that takes us out of resentment – because in resentment, no one reconciles with anyone, not even with themselves.
When we are able to understand that inside us lives not an enemy, but rather a being filled with hopes and failures - a being in whom we can see, even in a short sequence of images, beautiful moments of fulfillment as well as moments of frustration and resentment… When we are able to understand that our enemy is a being who has also lived with hopes and failures, a being in whom there have been beautiful moments of fulfillment as well as moments of frustration and resentment… then we are casting a humanizing look over the skin of monstrosity.
This path toward reconciliation does not arise spontaneously, just as the path toward non-violence does not arise spontaneously, because both require great understanding as well as the development of a physical repugnance to violence.
We will not be the ones to judge anyone’s errors – neither our own nor anyone else’s. For that there is human retribution and human justice, and it will be the stature of the times that determines how it is exercised. I do not want to judge myself or to judge others....I want to understand deeply in order to cleanse my mind of all resentment.
To reconcile is neither to forget nor to forgive. Instead, it is to acknowledge everything that has happened, and to resolve to break out of the vicious circle of resentment. It is to look at the situation, recognizing one’s own errors and those of others. To reconcile within oneself is to resolve not to take the same path again, but instead to be ready to make amends twice-over for the wrongs one has done. But clearly we cannot ask those who have offended us to make amends twice-over for the harm they have done us! However, it is good to show them the chain of harm that they are dragging through their lives. In doing this we reconcile with someone we previously felt was an enemy — although this doesn’t make the other person reconcile with us. But their reconciliation is part of the destiny of their actions, over which we have no decision-making power.
We are saying that reconciliation is not reciprocal. We are also saying that reconciliation with oneself does not necessarily mean that others will step out of their own vicious circle, even if they do recognize the social benefits of taking such a stance.
The theme of reconciliation has been central in these Days of ours, but surely we have achieved many other advances as well, by making this physical pilgrimage to an unknown landscape – a landscape that will have awakened profound internal landscapes. And this will always be possible if the Purpose that has motivated our pilgrimage is a disposition towards renewal, or better still, a disposition towards the transformation of our own lives.
In the course of these days we have reviewed what we consider to be the most important situations in our lives. If we have located such moments and reconciled with them, cleansing ourselves of the resentments that have bound us to the past, then we will have made a good pilgrimage to the source of renewal and transformation.
2. Excerpt from Silo’s words in the Public Talk in Madrid, 1981
For the first time in history, let us stop looking for people to blame. Everyone is responsible for what they have done, but no one is to blame for what has happened. If only with this universal judgment we could declare: “No one is to blame,” and with this establish a moral obligation that every human being reconcile with his or her own past. This will begin here today in you, and you will be responsible to see that it continues, reaching those around you until it has spread to the last corner of the Earth.
If the direction of your life has not changed, you need to change it. And if it has already changed, then you need to strengthen this new direction. So that all this may be possible, accompany me in a free, courageous, and profound act that is also a commitment to reconciliation. Go to your parents, your loved ones, your companions; go to your friends and your enemies alike, and tell them with an open heart, “Something great and new has happened in me today,” and explain to them this message of reconciliation. Let me repeat this: Go to your parents, your loved ones, your companions; go to your friends and your enemies alike, and tell them with an open heart, “Something great and new has happened in me today,” and explain to them this message of reconciliation.
For everyone, Peace, Force, and Joy!